Posts Tagged ‘Domestic Violence

10
Oct
09

Real Men Don’t Hit Women

I’ve been traveling a lot in the last few years of my life speaking to different communities both in the United States and abroad.  In at least the last two years of my travels, there hasn’t been a lecture or event that I’ve participated in that hasn’t introduced me to at least one young woman (and usually more) that has been abused in some way during her life and, subsequently, doesn’t know what to do about it.

Rape, molestation, beatings, verbal abuse, emotional distress, the issues continue on end.   In most instances, the hardest part of it all seemingly stems from the young woman being unable to find someone to speak to about it.    And so she will follow suit unknowingly to those who came before her and experienced similar abuses, left to talk only to herself.    Critical questions of why it happened to her in the first place now take on the form of self criticism, and in most instances the young girl will begin to blame herself for everything that has happened.    Why did my husband hit me?  Why did my uncle take advantage of me?  Why did my husband cheat on me?  Why did that boy end up not marrying me after having an intimate relationship with me?  Perhaps it is my fault and I deserve it.

As a Muslim man, I can say its already difficult enough to understand how to be Muslim in the context of the United States.   I think its also important for us to acknowledge that most of us haven’t grown up being taught how to be men.   If you are a man and you are reading this, at no point in time should you ever think its ok to hit a woman.

I spoke at the University of Pennsylvania on the topic of Dealing with Domestic Violence in the Muslim Community a couple of weeks ago.   You can hear some of my thoughts on the subject matter in the videos below.  Please do share with others if you think its worth it.   I’ll write something more in depth in the future.

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23
Sep
09

Domestic Violence in the Muslim Community – UPenn Lecture

I am speaking tonight at UPenn on Domestic Abuse in the Muslim Community.   For any of you in the Philly area, details are as follows:

17
Aug
09

Silence Hurts

The Islamic Center at NYU is getting ready for its 7th Annual Fast-A-Thon (Details Below)  Please help spread the word.  To RSVP or for more info please click here
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In the United States alone, 1 in every 4 women has personally experienced domestic violence in her lifetime.  In just one year, more than 3 million women report abuse by their husband or boyfriend.  Nearly 3 out of 4 Americans personally know someone who is or has been the victim of domestic violence.  Studies indicate that women who have access to crisis intervention programs and shelters are 60-70% less likely to re-encounter abuse within the year than women without these resources.

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Silence Hurts
: Fast-A-Thon 2009
Here at NYU, the Islamic Center hosts a fundraiser  during our month of fasting, Ramadan. During   these 30 days, Muslims abstain from eating and  drinking from sunrise to sunset. We ask our student  body, faculty, and administration to join us in  fasting for just one day, on which we host our  charity event called “Fast-A-Thon.”

This year, all of the proceeds will go towards Turning Point for Women and Families, an   organization that works primarily with victims and  survivors of domestic abuse. We feel that domestic  violence is an important issue to be addressed at the university-level because it is a global problem  that can affect individuals, regardless of their social, cultural or religious background.

Building Bridges

Fast-A-Thon connects approximately. 600 Muslims and non-Muslims from thelarger NYU area. At sunset, we provide a communal meal for the entire community to break the fast together. The meal is followed by an evening of reflection and social awareness focused on the cause, which this year, is domestic violence. To raise money for the charity, a sponsor donates $1, or some increment thereof, towards the cause for every person that voluntarily fasts. Alternatively, individuals are able to give lump sums as a donation if they would rather do so. Our goal this year is to raise at least $15,000.

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Our Charity
Turning Point for Women and Families is a non-profit organization in Queens, NY which offers resources to women and children in the community through crisis intervention, individual and group counseling, advocacy, and education about their rights. .

By connecting their clients to language and legal services, as well as other tools to resist abuse within their own homes, Turning Point acts as a vehicle that allows women to empower themselves and their families.  More information can be found on their website by clicking here .



Make A Gift Today
https://www.storesonlinepro.com/files/1835430/uploaded/Man%20&%20Woman%20hands-closeup-compressed.jpgIf you are unable to attend our event, you can still support the cause by making an online donation at any time by clicking here . If you choose this option, please write “ICNYU donation” in the box titled “Designation” so that we are able to track how much NYU has raised for the organization.

You can also mail a check directly to Turning Point. Please make it out to:
Turning Point For Women And Families
PO Box 670086
Flushing, NY 11367

Please indicate that this is an ICNYU donation in the lower left-hand corner/memo of the check.


Our Program
Silence Hurts: Fast-A-Thon 2009
Thursday, September 17th
Doors Open at 6:30pm Suggested Donation: $20

Guest Speakers
Executive Representatives from Turning Point
A Survivor of Domestic Violence
Mr. Ravi Karkara, UNICEF Women’s Empowerment Initiative
Imam Khalid Latif, Islamic Center at NYU
Gaith Adhami, Spoken Word Artist and Performer
Arshiya Kherani, Fast-a-Thon 2009 Chair

Sponsors
The United Muslim Association at NYU
The Muslim Graduate Student Group at NYU
The Islamic Center at NYU

Join us for an evening of reflection, conversation, and inspiration!

To RSVP for this event please click here




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My name is Khalid Latif. I work as the Executive Director and Chaplain for the Islamic Center at New York University as well as a Chaplain for the NYPD, New York City Police Department.

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